Love Hurts


Whilst there's truth in it I slightly disagree with the quote attributed to Liam Neeson in the image above.

Love opens you up, it opens you up to yourself and to other people. If you love someone you start to feel their pain, that's empathy. Everyone hurts. You can't love someone without feeling pain. And it opens you up to yourself. If you've been numb, dulled yourself to your own pain, then love will hurt. The difference is that it's a good hurt, it's the hurt that brings healing. Love allows you to accept and to let go of your pain. So love definitely hurts, because life hurts. It's just that there's beauty in it too and the beauty does actually make it worth the pain.

A deeper secret. The healing comes not from being loved but from giving love. Often of course it's only through being loved that we're really able to feel love. Because love itself is so beautiful we can't help loving it. We respond with love and that's how we find our healing, how we unfurl and our own beauty is revealed. The beauty that's in everyone. Who we really are.

To be able to love is the most beautiful thing in the world. Worth living for and maybe even worth dying for. We only find it in the struggle to be free. We're freedom fighters. The fight is the freedom and the freedom is the fight.

I don't think you die if your heart breaks. I think you die if you don't let it break.

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